Do you have a special way to say “I love you” in your house?
If you are a fan of the TV show Friends – or if you are like me and married to a fan of the show, (or maybe just Jennifer Anniston,) than you are familiar with the episode where the character, Phoebe, says something about lobsters mating for life.
They don’t – in fact there really aren’t any species that do – but it’s a sweet and silly way to say “I love you.”
My mom and dad used to turn to each other on occasion and say “Do you like my hat?” referencing the line in Go, Dog, Go. My siblings and I thought it was funny. It wasn’t until we were in relationships ourselves that we recognized this communiqué as a sort of secret language between a couple with four children in 5 years who must surely have felt they were hosting a dog party in their house!
A few weekends ago, my husband presented me with a lobster charm for my bracelet. He had been looking for one for awhile. Of course he didn’t want to present it on Valentine’s Day – to him that would have trivialized the gift. Presenting it in the middle of an ordinary Saturday afternoon was more significant.
I have to agree. Special phrases, sideways glances over the tops of children’s heads; it’s part of love, of being lobsters.